A couple of things I found when I started therapy:
1. There may be people in your life who see you changing, feel threatened by those changes, and try to sabotage your recovery. Find a way to deal with them or be ready to cut them off.
Beau of the Fifth Column on YouTube had a great video around the beginning of the year where someone who was trying to get his life together asked for advice and Beau told him to get away from all the people who would draw him back into the old ways. There was a follow-up video later where the guy reported in to say he was taking the advice and was really turning his life around.
2. Related, but separate, there may be people near and dear to you who take it personally that you need to talk to a therapist (maybe about them) rather than relying on THEM to help you. They take offense to the idea that you have to turn to someone completely outside of your relationship, not realizing that a therapist will be able to help you exactly BECAUSE they are not a part of any of your existing relationships.
If most of a group remains silent for whatever reason, the members of the group who do speak up are advocates for themselves and their fellow travelers on the path.
Now, if they're part of a mainstream group complaining about how "oppressed" they are because they haven't learned to share, fuck 'em. They aren't advocates, they're whiners.
"civil war between my brain and the rest of my body."
Perfect. You are a damn good writer. And brave.
I am proud to know you. Or at least know about you. I call the Internet the "invisible neighborhood" -- one enjoys the illusion of "knowing" people. But do we? (That's a longer and more melancholy topic which I will not broach at this time.)
I am getting used to the I Can't Believe It's Not Butter beard.
I am on Zoloft and probably should talk to a therapist. My problem would be thinking I should "entertain" and not truly share or confess. And also try to be the smartest person in the room.
As someone who has lost family members because of mental health issues, I will always be grateful to you for using your voice to educate. You may be saving a life every time. Love you.
A couple of things I found when I started therapy:
1. There may be people in your life who see you changing, feel threatened by those changes, and try to sabotage your recovery. Find a way to deal with them or be ready to cut them off.
Beau of the Fifth Column on YouTube had a great video around the beginning of the year where someone who was trying to get his life together asked for advice and Beau told him to get away from all the people who would draw him back into the old ways. There was a follow-up video later where the guy reported in to say he was taking the advice and was really turning his life around.
2. Related, but separate, there may be people near and dear to you who take it personally that you need to talk to a therapist (maybe about them) rather than relying on THEM to help you. They take offense to the idea that you have to turn to someone completely outside of your relationship, not realizing that a therapist will be able to help you exactly BECAUSE they are not a part of any of your existing relationships.
They might get pissy about it. Be patient.
If most of a group remains silent for whatever reason, the members of the group who do speak up are advocates for themselves and their fellow travelers on the path.
Now, if they're part of a mainstream group complaining about how "oppressed" they are because they haven't learned to share, fuck 'em. They aren't advocates, they're whiners.
"civil war between my brain and the rest of my body."
Perfect. You are a damn good writer. And brave.
I am proud to know you. Or at least know about you. I call the Internet the "invisible neighborhood" -- one enjoys the illusion of "knowing" people. But do we? (That's a longer and more melancholy topic which I will not broach at this time.)
I am getting used to the I Can't Believe It's Not Butter beard.
I am on Zoloft and probably should talk to a therapist. My problem would be thinking I should "entertain" and not truly share or confess. And also try to be the smartest person in the room.
As someone who has lost family members because of mental health issues, I will always be grateful to you for using your voice to educate. You may be saving a life every time. Love you.