Aloha from sunny Branson, MO! We are here on our annual family lake trip and my ass is still worn out from the drive! Is this normal for a man my age, or is my wife right and I’m just a giant man child? 🤣 I rant about that and also briefly talk about this dumbass Jason Aldean and Hunter Biden stuff!
Couple of things, yes pretty normal to feel the wear and tear on your body in your thirties. The heat is probably a compounding factor. Also dairy + roadtrip + heatwave bubble of doom = probably at least a little queasy. Though plenty of folks get queasy when they aren’t driving your brain is processing the movement in a different way as a passenger and you don’t have all the micro-calibrations and mental exercises driving entails to occupy your brain with something other than the nausea.
Stay reasonably hydrated, eat things gentle on your stomach and easy to digest, try to get ahold of some Nauzene chewable tablets. Works a treat on road trips. Also as others have said take rest breaks. We did a seven hour trip few weeks back and my knees still hurt. Feelin your pain.
You’ll be fine. You’ve got this baby thing. You can be gentle with yourself without being a baby.
Your wife sounds like my wife right down to the sausage and battery acid thing... Wait is your wife my wife...I better check and see if she’s here...
yup she’s home so the bad news is there’s two of them but the good news is if we don’t tell them about the other one they can’t team up.
Traveling mercies and gentle blessings to you and your family.
47-y-o here. You’re fine. Your wife is a rockstar. I always drive on trips because I get car sick if I read or try and do anything on my phone/device--so it is drive or be bored. Car sickness comes from the inner ear, so not something you can really control other than keeping your eye on the horizon. Length of impact completely age related. Like you, I used to get over being car sick quickly, but now it lingers (which is why I do what I can to avoid it). You may just have to accept you cannot write while in the car and save it for later to avoid the pain.
Hm. FWIW, I think it might be due more to the high level of focus and attention you provide to your son than the number of solar orbits you’ve had. That burns energy units and you appear to be “on” almost 24/7. Please note that’s not a *bad thing (you are to be commended, IMO), but it does tend to drain the battery over time. Try to do 2 things - recognize when your body battery is down to about 10% and then plug into the charger for a few minutes (do whatever works for you to recharge). I know it’s hard. I speak as someone who my doc says has one speed - pedal to the metal. For my ADHD brain, resting isn’t fun or easy. But I suck it up, get comfy, and put on a podcast (POA being a favorite!) for 10-15 minutes. Then hit it again. Rinse/repeat as needed. A couple of those breaks during the day does help. As much as it chaps my hide to admit it 😂
You're a new parent! You're tired. Take the advice about stretching and moving around. Sitting in a car isn't as easy as it used to be. You're still young, though. Be kind to yourself.
Okie dokie, Corey... Been a nurse more than three decades and been teaching new, baby nurses for almost two decades on top of that. Saying that, I can’t diagnose your problems BUT here’s my professional take.
Your fatigue in the car is likely age related. It takes more external actions to keep internal functions running smoothly as we humans age, unfortunately. Be sure to stay hydrated and take breaks to stretch and move around to keep your blood flowing. If that’s not possible, try to figure out ways to do this in the car. Knee lifts, ankle rotations, move your feet up and down like you’re running, give your arms and hands good stretches and get them moving (even if it’s just to shake them till you feel them get warm), and open your window and take some good deep breaths of fresh air here and there. Also, be sure the cabin filter in your car is clean too.
As for your car sickness, we have a vomiting center in our brains. We also have watery fluid, thicker fluid, and little rock things in our inner ears. When those bounce around and get too swirly they send off-balance signals to the brain. If your brain is more sensitive to that type of motion and it triggers your vomiting center, BOOM! You’re car sick! You can get a scopolamine patch to stick behind your ear for long travels. You can also try some good ole generic diphenhydramine (brand name Benadryl) before you get in a car. BUT...don’t do these if you’re driving and they dull your reactions!!!!! Safety first!!!!!
Finally, on a personal note, it doesn’t surprise me that your brain is more sensitive to anything and everything. I’ve come to see how generally sensitive you are and how you’re somebody who goes deep into your feels. That’s not only ok but a big reason why you’re on my very small, tippy top tier of favorite people I’ve never met. Much 💜 to you and the fam!!
Yep, age is a bitch. Stop, get out of the car and stretch or walk. I feel stiff after being in the car for over an hour. Also, I don’t give a shit about the actions of any President’s kids. It’s all noise.
Gotta stretch good buddy. Sun Salutations are a good way to do a full body run through that hits the hot spots. You gotta counter your hips being at an angle for so long and get some good blood flow cycling.
Lay down on your back close to a wall and put your feet up the wall after a long drive and hang out letting gravity do some of the work. It’s a nice passive reset of the system and it can help the lower back not hurt so much after a long drive.
It happens man. I roasted most of my joint space in my 20s so I have to be real mindful about how I use the knee space I’ve got left 😂. Sadly our bodies are mortal vessels subject to decay, but I promise doing five minutes of legs up the wall will help if that’s the only thing you’ve got time to do post road trip 😁.
I'm 63 and I just drove from southwest Michigan home an hour south of Nashville. It was 8 hours, and I was tired. But I wasn't flat out broken down.
You're significantly younger, but you also have a toddler that turns your life upside down. I think the way to look at it is, "Damn, if I didn't take those long walks, I'd be in the hospital right now."
But I also agree with your wife: You're a pussy.
But you're one of my favorite pussies. Enjoy your family in Branson!
I am a month older than you, and I would say that the back pain is so much worse on a drive now than it was 10 years ago, that's what always gets me. As far as carsickness, I have always had it, I can't say it's gotten worse for me yet but I know my mom's has gotten worse as she's gotten older so I wouldn't be surprised. I always pop a dramamine if I'm not driving tbh. Non-drowsy ones, but I do still get a lil sleepy if I'm not driving.
I hate road trips, in part because my ADHD brain gets so incredibly bored that I'm drained the rest of the day.
I'm 58, so I'll shut up lol!
Couple of things, yes pretty normal to feel the wear and tear on your body in your thirties. The heat is probably a compounding factor. Also dairy + roadtrip + heatwave bubble of doom = probably at least a little queasy. Though plenty of folks get queasy when they aren’t driving your brain is processing the movement in a different way as a passenger and you don’t have all the micro-calibrations and mental exercises driving entails to occupy your brain with something other than the nausea.
Stay reasonably hydrated, eat things gentle on your stomach and easy to digest, try to get ahold of some Nauzene chewable tablets. Works a treat on road trips. Also as others have said take rest breaks. We did a seven hour trip few weeks back and my knees still hurt. Feelin your pain.
You’ll be fine. You’ve got this baby thing. You can be gentle with yourself without being a baby.
Your wife sounds like my wife right down to the sausage and battery acid thing... Wait is your wife my wife...I better check and see if she’s here...
yup she’s home so the bad news is there’s two of them but the good news is if we don’t tell them about the other one they can’t team up.
Traveling mercies and gentle blessings to you and your family.
47-y-o here. You’re fine. Your wife is a rockstar. I always drive on trips because I get car sick if I read or try and do anything on my phone/device--so it is drive or be bored. Car sickness comes from the inner ear, so not something you can really control other than keeping your eye on the horizon. Length of impact completely age related. Like you, I used to get over being car sick quickly, but now it lingers (which is why I do what I can to avoid it). You may just have to accept you cannot write while in the car and save it for later to avoid the pain.
Hm. FWIW, I think it might be due more to the high level of focus and attention you provide to your son than the number of solar orbits you’ve had. That burns energy units and you appear to be “on” almost 24/7. Please note that’s not a *bad thing (you are to be commended, IMO), but it does tend to drain the battery over time. Try to do 2 things - recognize when your body battery is down to about 10% and then plug into the charger for a few minutes (do whatever works for you to recharge). I know it’s hard. I speak as someone who my doc says has one speed - pedal to the metal. For my ADHD brain, resting isn’t fun or easy. But I suck it up, get comfy, and put on a podcast (POA being a favorite!) for 10-15 minutes. Then hit it again. Rinse/repeat as needed. A couple of those breaks during the day does help. As much as it chaps my hide to admit it 😂
You're a new parent! You're tired. Take the advice about stretching and moving around. Sitting in a car isn't as easy as it used to be. You're still young, though. Be kind to yourself.
Okie dokie, Corey... Been a nurse more than three decades and been teaching new, baby nurses for almost two decades on top of that. Saying that, I can’t diagnose your problems BUT here’s my professional take.
Your fatigue in the car is likely age related. It takes more external actions to keep internal functions running smoothly as we humans age, unfortunately. Be sure to stay hydrated and take breaks to stretch and move around to keep your blood flowing. If that’s not possible, try to figure out ways to do this in the car. Knee lifts, ankle rotations, move your feet up and down like you’re running, give your arms and hands good stretches and get them moving (even if it’s just to shake them till you feel them get warm), and open your window and take some good deep breaths of fresh air here and there. Also, be sure the cabin filter in your car is clean too.
As for your car sickness, we have a vomiting center in our brains. We also have watery fluid, thicker fluid, and little rock things in our inner ears. When those bounce around and get too swirly they send off-balance signals to the brain. If your brain is more sensitive to that type of motion and it triggers your vomiting center, BOOM! You’re car sick! You can get a scopolamine patch to stick behind your ear for long travels. You can also try some good ole generic diphenhydramine (brand name Benadryl) before you get in a car. BUT...don’t do these if you’re driving and they dull your reactions!!!!! Safety first!!!!!
Finally, on a personal note, it doesn’t surprise me that your brain is more sensitive to anything and everything. I’ve come to see how generally sensitive you are and how you’re somebody who goes deep into your feels. That’s not only ok but a big reason why you’re on my very small, tippy top tier of favorite people I’ve never met. Much 💜 to you and the fam!!
I’m not sure what I like more, crunching leaves underfoot or the cool groovy music!
Sorry your tum tum got yucky. Don’t be a bitch, bro. Have fun at the lake 😎
Yep, age is a bitch. Stop, get out of the car and stretch or walk. I feel stiff after being in the car for over an hour. Also, I don’t give a shit about the actions of any President’s kids. It’s all noise.
Gotta stretch good buddy. Sun Salutations are a good way to do a full body run through that hits the hot spots. You gotta counter your hips being at an angle for so long and get some good blood flow cycling.
Lay down on your back close to a wall and put your feet up the wall after a long drive and hang out letting gravity do some of the work. It’s a nice passive reset of the system and it can help the lower back not hurt so much after a long drive.
It happens man. I roasted most of my joint space in my 20s so I have to be real mindful about how I use the knee space I’ve got left 😂. Sadly our bodies are mortal vessels subject to decay, but I promise doing five minutes of legs up the wall will help if that’s the only thing you’ve got time to do post road trip 😁.
Yes, you are a pussy, but there's one in every family and we love you! 💜 🤣😻🥰
I'm 63 and I just drove from southwest Michigan home an hour south of Nashville. It was 8 hours, and I was tired. But I wasn't flat out broken down.
You're significantly younger, but you also have a toddler that turns your life upside down. I think the way to look at it is, "Damn, if I didn't take those long walks, I'd be in the hospital right now."
But I also agree with your wife: You're a pussy.
But you're one of my favorite pussies. Enjoy your family in Branson!
I am a month older than you, and I would say that the back pain is so much worse on a drive now than it was 10 years ago, that's what always gets me. As far as carsickness, I have always had it, I can't say it's gotten worse for me yet but I know my mom's has gotten worse as she's gotten older so I wouldn't be surprised. I always pop a dramamine if I'm not driving tbh. Non-drowsy ones, but I do still get a lil sleepy if I'm not driving.
Enjoy fabulous Branson, Missouri!